Beyonce Knowles in her song „Pretty hurts” was singing those lyrics: „Pretty hurts, we shine the light on whatever`s worse. Perfection is a disease of a nation. Pretty Hurts […] We try to fix something but you can`t fix what you can`t see. It`s the soul that needs the surgery”.
This song is not only about the unrealistic standards promoted by television and magazines in the style of ” Vogue” but also it is primarily an accusation against mothers, while ignoring the taboo topic of absent fathers.
Perfection is a new disease? Seriously!? When have you heard of something like this from your mother, sister or teacher at school? Or maybe your psychologist or coach told you about it!?
How you girls can keep your sanity when you are repetitively bombarded with all those rules demanding you to be perfect everywhere and all the time. Perfect Lady of the House, Lover, Mother, Manager, etc. Yes, you are extremely brave in all of this. Determined beyond average. You start companies, you learn, you make careers, most of the time without a man at your side, while bringing up a child. You have my respect. Hats off to you all. In my eyes, women are mostly silent heroes of everyday life.
Men cannot compete with you, they come out extremely weak in comparison. But the thing is not about the guys. Let them continue chasing hooligans with a baseball bat, rave the engines of their sports cars and drink to oblivion with their buddies every night. All those Peter Pans, mentally and socially dysfunctional eventually end up in prison for not paying their child care maintenance, trying to cheat the system selling drugs or ending up bankrupt for spending all their and your food money in the bet shops.
Let’s come back to you though, the future of modern economy based on knowledge and competence, and to all those grown up men who are sensible enough to at least try to meet your needs and ambitions.
Well, instead of creating an illusion of perfection, try to be kinder to yourself. When fighting for professional and wage rights, do not forget to fight for such a fundamental human right – as the right to make mistakes and allowing imperfections. It’s OK.