The outcome of your divorce will be as bad as you make it.
Sounds like a strange comment, right?
And that is because we often feel the need to point the finger on the other party. Many people believe the ugliness is because of what their ex said and did. I am by no means implying that there is not one party that makes matters worse than it should be. Instead, I am going to show you how to take your power back so that you could have the best post divorce life!
This statement is one that should be engrained in your mind whether you are contemplating divorce, newly separated or divorced or still battling the looping sagas: The success of your divorce will ALWAYS start off and end of with YOU! It’s all about how you feel, how you act, how you behave and how you react or respond to the situations in front of you.
Divorce is the not the end of you. Au contraire! Divorce is actually your GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY to re-design your new life, to restructure it the way YOU want it to be. It is your opportunity to bring back that old part of you that got lost along the way and now take this time to reignite your new life!
Divorce is actually the really good version of mid-life crisis. You get to take out the bad, old and stale parts you didn’t like or want and now replace it with a sweet, prosperous and totally aligned new version of YOU. You get to customize your new life, right now!
How do you accomplish this? You do things differently from the people whose horror stories you’ve heard by starting off to refuse to adopt the very old and outdated traditional mindset – the kind of thinking that has led many people down the rabbit hole of divorce filled with looping sagas, constant tornadoes and a whole load of money wasted.
In order to avoid the common patterns that plague families from far and wide, think about these 5 critical steps I am about detail for you. Look at how YOU could implement this thinking, this way of being, this way of living right now. And if you catch yourself saying “sounds lovely but he/she won’t do this”, then I urge you STOP this thought and repeat to yourself “the success of my divorce will ALWAYS start off and end of with ME!” You must keep the power to yourself and remind yourself that you hold the ace cards that determine how your divorce will pan out. The future outcome is all about what you do right now. It is not about what your ex will or will not do.